Today was a really nice day. Some highlights in the only way I know how to express my feelings (in happy list format):
1. Experiencing things in real life that have only ever existed for white people in movies and TV. Most of the day was spent with Asmaa and her sister looking at white (colour and/or race, whichever comes to your mind first) wedding gowns, which is something that I wouldn’t ever have experienced on my own, being of South-Asian descent and never having an occasion to wear a white dress. Well, as the day progressed, we figured it could possibly happen if I decided to marry an Arab or a white-convert, but really, who are we kidding, it wouldn’t likely happen.
But it was actually a pretty enjoyable activity, filled with unbearable saleswomen, lots of dresses and a movie moment when Asmaa’s sister and I got teary when we she tried on a beautiful dress (not pictured) that we both knew was “the one.” Who knew that actually happens in real life?!
2. Three women who were extremely hungry going to a restaurant and clearly ordering too much food. And being full and ready to finish eating before the actual meal was served. And still being committed to the decision that was made. I love us. Also, food is delicious.
3. The funniest “having to break prayer because you can’t keep your laughter in” moment. In this case, prayer was started, led by Asmaa, a realisation was made, followed by a ridiculous statement uttered out loud, a not so subtle escape and then me trying to mask a giggle by coughing but having the cough turn into a full uncontrollable chuckle. It was over before it even began. The truest ROTFL moment I have ever experienced.
4. Oh yeah, in case you weren’t paying attention, the lovely (and my BFF) ASMAA IS GETTING MARRIED! Followers of this blog will probably understand how shocking that is since Asmaa is apparently the least marriageable person in the entire world, a man hater and broke a pact she made with herself to never to get married. I just always pictured her single. Also, facebook pretty much freaked out when news broke out.
5. This is the going to vaguest point ever but, having things under control – or maybe not having everything under control but telling myself that I do and believing it. I’m seeing progress and moving forward, being positive, generally being pleased with things and expressing my feelings freely and being honest and forgiving to myself. It’s slow and goes backwards and forwards constantly, but I’m hopeful.
Honourably mentioned: many many episodes of The Marriage Ref (which is a surprisingly funny show, even though everyone is nuts but I guess that’s why it’s funny), finishing a mix for Angela, talking on the phone again, and seeing my nephew for 5 minutes today (he was adorable, as usual).
I’d go wedding dress shopping with you, any day
aw, very sweet. btw, *i* married a whitey – it happens.
AND i got married in a whit(ish) dress – it was actually an ivory lengha with sapphire accents to reflect the union of our two worlds. so far, so good!